It’s easy to get carried away and say things to “encourage” new mums which end up upsetting them. These are the 7 things you should never say to a new mum.
We know you mean well, but please avoid saying these 7 things when you come visiting or even if you are the dad. Honestly!
1. You look worn out
She knows, she has a mirror. You don’t need to remind her of how she looks! It’s a no-no. Why restate the obvious?
2. “It’s just a phase”
True. It’s probably just a phase and it will even out soon. However, to a new mum that is worn out, tired, sleepy and on the verge of losing it. It isn’t just a phase. It’s everything.
3. You are getting fat
Now this one ticks me off. Breastfeeding isn’t the easiest of a task and neither is motherhood the simplest of jobs. It’s a lead role you land without prior experience.
4. What are you feeding your baby! He is so big!
Love me some chubby baby! But sometimes, it comes off as offensive. No one wants to end up with an obese baby. NO- ONE.
5. You should breastfeed exclusively
Err, nope! Not everyone has it so easy. She was told at the hospital 1 million times before she left, you one extra time won’t make much difference. Trust me.
6. My baby slept for “4 years” last night
You get the gist. We are happy your baby slept through the night but if we are not friends, and you are not sharing tips on how you did it. We really don’t want to know how many years your baby slept for.
7. ‘She must be hungry’
Thanks. But no, thanks. Not every cry or whimper means hunger. That mama has probably breastfed all day/night, her breasts are sore, or maybe even cracked. If she carried that baby for 9 months. She must likely won’t starve her.