Just thinking about sex after delivery is scary and exhausting for new mums. whether you had a C-section or vaginal birth does not reduce the pain from delivery, the sleepless nights, the tiredness and raging emotions. But while sex is the last thing on your mind right now, that won’t be the case forever. Take as long as you need to heal. There is no rush.
I often get asked “how long after birth can you have sex?” Medically, it is advised to wait for six weeks to give your body time to heal. I’ll say, take all the time you need to feel ready both mentally and physically. The lochia (discharge of leftover blood and uterine tissue) will probably have stopped by then as well.
Postpartum sex may not feel good at first so don’t feel like you have “lost it”.
Your estrogen levels drop after giving birth and even remain low while breastfeeding. If you had an episiotomy or other laceration, the time it takes to heal will depend on how extensive it was and where the cutting was done.
How to Have Great Postpartum Sex
1. Don’t Rush It
Take your time. If you are still feeling sore after 6 weeks, take more time. You and your partner will love it better if you are both ready.
2. Try a Bubble Bath
Does bubble bath help you relax? It helps you get clean and get into the mood all at the same time.
3. Remember Birth Control
Even if your period hasn’t returned, you can still get pregnant. So what’s your prevention plan? Here are options you can consider.
Plan some alone time with your partner, even if it’s just to cuddle. It will help revive the intimacy
Quickies are your new best friend, my friend. Bedtime won’t always be the right time and neither will the bedroom be the perfect place. Be spontaneous when you get a chance.
You will need a Lubricant
With delivery comes vaginal dryness. Ensure there is enough foreplay before actual intercourse so you are wet enough or get a lubricant. You’ll need it.
Quality over Quantity
You don’t need to have sex every night or week if you are not up to it. Make quality time for you and your partner.
Say No when you don’t feel up to it
If you think you need more time, ask for it. Be free to say no when your body is tired.
Discuss your fears
Let your partner know what worries you so he knows how to walk with you, go easy on you or even just to encourage you. Most times great sex is all about great communication.