A strong-willed toddler is one with a very strong sense of independence. While children with this temperament are often labelled stubbornness, difficult behavior, strong opinions and defiance, it can also mean can confidence, self-assured, and determined.
The constant power struggle associated with raising spirited children can leave you tired and frustrated as a parent. This is why these strategies to building better relationships is important.
Here are 6 tips for building a better relationship with a strong-willed kid.
Give them room to learn
Strong-willed kids are experiential learners. They don’t like instructions or being told what to do. they want to experience it and decide for themselves. Except they are in danger or can hurt someone else with what they are doing, let them learn on their own.
2. Pick your battles carefully
You’ll burn out fast if you decide to fight every single thing your child does wrong. When disciplining a strong-willed child, it is important to focus on the worst/most dangerous behaviors first and work your way down as behaviors improve. Pick your battles wisely.
3. Adopt A Positive Parenting Style
Offer your child empathy and respect. This will make him feel heard and understood. Don’t be overly critical or keep records of their wrongs.
Communicating that you understand why something is important to her and offering compromise (where need be) when she can’t have her way can be a great strategy that allows the child to feel heard.
5. SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES
Setting clear boundaries and emphasizing them is a quick way to mold the routine and way of life that you expect . However, it’s important to know that flexibility is also very important. Be willing and open to negotiations.
6. REWARD YOUR CHILD.
Strong-willed children respond well to being rewarded with gifts, activities they enjoy or physical rewards such as hugs and kisses. Reinforce good behavior by offering rewards for good deeds.