Tantrums can be frustrating. Especially when caused by the most unthinkable things.
Please know this mama, tantrums are your baby’s way of communicating a need. He or she is just not old enough to understand that there are better ways of communication.
This is why positive attention is needed to stir them in the right direction.
Let’s break it down.
If your child does something nice and he is showered with positive attention and praises, chances are he will want to repeat the same good deed in future to illicit the same reaction from you as your attention is seen as a “big reward”. Right?
Positive attention also helps children feel secure and seen. It helps build a good Parent-Children relationship.
Paying attention to your kid’s good deeds not only encourages them to do more, it also helps you as the Parent to focus more on your child’s good behavior than the bad. This means there will be fewer conflicts and tantrums and more love, praises and play.
Here are some ways to use attention to inprove positive behavior in toddlers.
1. Defined Praise: Instead of saying “Good job, Michael ” say “I saw you packed up your toys. Well done”..This lets Michael know why you are praising him and he will want to always pick up his toys after play. Make sure you always notice.
2. Encouragement: Letting kids know you believe in them, especially when they fail at a task is essential. Say words of encouragement like “you can do it, keep trying” or “I believe in you”.
3. Paying Attention: Be present and be interested. Listening and responding with interest when your child is communicating something in a normal voice instead of shouting trains the child to know he does not need to shout to get your attention.
Make it a part of your daily lives so your child can know what to expect when they act in certain ways.
Here is a guide you can adopt: Praise kids six times for every one time you correct them.
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